Michelle Obama's $540 sneakers she wore to help out at a homeless shelter
We women can get out of kilter and need to be reminded of how to get back to a sense of balance or, as a good friend of mine says, learn to have "equanimity under duress." Sometimes most of us need to be reminded of what doesn't look or sound good. Take the case of Michelle Obama whose heart is definitely in the right place when it comes to helping those least able to provide for themselves. She has a natural empathy that many people in high places either do not have or do not express in public. Working with military families, poor children, homeless individuals and families are only some of the interests she has shown.
However, last week Mrs. Obama and over a hundred wives of Congressmen went to a Washington DC shelter to help at mealtime. All the good she did has probably been undermined because she wore a pair of sneakers that are valued at $540.00. As millions of families and individuals struggle to make ends meet, $540 can feed a family of four for a month if it is supplemented with coupons
Elizabeth Edwards book titled Resilience describes her husband's affair
Then, there is the case of another woman I admire: Elizabeth Edwards. She just wrote a memoir of sorts, Resilience, about her struggle with terminal cancer and with her unfaithful husband, former presidential candidate John Edwards, whose affair with another woman is said to have produced a child. I always thought Elizabeth Edwards is far smarter than her husband, She is downright brilliant whereas he is not. I thought she would make a better candidate and a better president.
Her book is likely to be very controversial because she comes off sounding like a whiner about the woman with whom John Edwards had the affair. She lashes out at Rielle Hunter but acts silly by getting Oprah Winfrey to agree that Hunter's name was not to be uttered by either of them in the interview. Hello!!! Rielle Hunter is the elephant in the room and no amount of pretending to ignore her changes that fact. Moreover, she criticized Hunter for making a pass at John Edwards as though he had no role in the whole thing. Rielle Hunter did not put a gun to the head of John Edwards. She did not force him into an affair. That is on him.
She thumbed her nose at Hunter when she said "I don't know people like that." Hello!!! I'll bet you do but they haven't told you that they have behaved that way. We all know someone like that. To put Hunter down that way was Edwards's way of elevating herself in the eyes of the public. Instead, she cheapened herself and came out sounding like a snob.
I don't think all women whose husbands cheat should be kicked out. Marriage is a very personal and private thing between two people, and outsiders should remain outside unless invited in. Edwards invites the public to examine not only what she writes but the motivation she had for writing this book. Michelle Obama invites us to examine her values: expensive sneakers worn at a homeless shelter. Both women deserve to be embraced lovingly but they also need to know how they appear to us.